1. Male & Female
2. M & F
3. Upper & Lower
4. Roles
5. Desire for Power
6. Transform
7. Sexual Journey
   1. A word on the beloved
8. Limits
9. Sexual realm
10. Sex with
11. Female
12. Coitus
13. Misc
14. F*ck***
15. Dance with Joy

Male & Female

Dark energy -> expressed sexually: Woman as a channel for this energy. Just as the shaman throws the water that the dark entities that she has removed from the person and placed in, onto the earth to “absorb” and dissipate in the belief that Mother Earth can absorb and deal with these dark energies. Just like the earth can ground us electrically when we walk barefoot upon her skin, so the female who identifies in her body with the earth, absorbs/receives the dark energy of the masculine, and can absorb and transform it in herself.

The image that comes to mind is of a cloaking, a filtering – or, on a higher level, the guiding – of the masculine by the feminine, and consists of concentric circles.

Whereas the male forms a circle of protection for the female. He faces outward, protecting her from outside effects. She works from the inside, nurturing and keeping the home and thus faces inward. His protection has to not allow anything in that shouldn’t get in. Her’s is to allow the dynamic fire of the man to be expressed in the world, but needs to control it enough to be able to temper and guide it.

This is a diagram of the universal dynamics of the Yin and the Yang. Where the divine feminine, represented by the the circle, represented space – creation, in that sense. The space in which creation can exist and be nurtured. Though Kabbalisticaly she is called form, paradoxically in her Divine, she is space – which is the form from which everything emerges. Whereas the masculine, the Yang, is represented as the energy that moves the space to manifest, and is always represented by straight lines, or rather a vector movement. This is because energy always moves in a “straight” line – though it might be a 4d straight line, and look very squiggly in this dimension.

M & F

• F: All life sustaining events are circular (what we refer to as light, productive, nourishing, "informative", the energy is circular, used to sustain itself. Can produce narcissism. Everything for me/mine.Countered by the "spiritual" thrust of giving (M), producing the self-abnegating "mother" - eventually the Divine Mother, the unconditional love...)
• M: All life threatening events are linear (what we refer to as evil - though light travels in a straight line. It has an integrity/force with which it travels, and it loses force/clarity by losing its integrity. Whilst darkness expands spatially (in all directions)) - it occupies the spaces that emerge through the lack of clarity/integrity of the light!)
  
• F: Will to receive => not receiving -> cold, vicious, conniving, mean
  Frustration at being the receiver. Looked at as passive. Introduces power of choice by being empowered in her ability to receive, able to refuse.
• M: Will to give => not giving -> moribund, violent
  Male anger at his “gift” not being received. That is where constraint is necessary, but can only be imposed by males. Not in what or how, but in that he always needs to ask for permission from the female – both inside himself and outside, always being open to hearing what the “other” has to say.

Upper & Lower

Instead of looking at ourselves as some sort of "object", as an "ideal" to attain, an imagined perfection, as illustrated by Jesus, Buddha, Mother Teresa, and other significant and influential figures. What if we viewed ourselves and our fellow beings as works-in-progress? Imagine everyone walked around with an "under construction" sign. Because who dies completely fulfilled? There is always something or, if you are lucky, someone left behind.

Why not look at ourselves, our world, in fact the whole darn universe, as dynamic systems. Systems that are always in some sort of flux, some of which is obvious and some of which is not. There is so much that happens, and that could happen, that we are unaware of, and that affect us. We are like fish in the ocean. All we can do, as regards the ocean itself, is just live in it and with it. We can search for food, and harvest what we can from our surroundings - but the currents that bring the nourishment, and the sun that nurtures them, and the many complex events that have to occur in order for this food to arrive and this current to flow is beyond anything we can imagine, and this flux affects us, even if we are seemingly still "who we were".

Even in our lives we think we are a constant, and not in constant flux. Besides the fact that our body is, our emotions are, and our mind is constanly breathing, feeling and thinking. How balanced they are depends on a number of factors, but training and practice is at their core. But as we grow, we move from one "type" of person to another. I am not the toddler I was when I was born. I have grown from being the young boy I was cavorting around the garden. I am not longer the father I was to my young children. Although I might still be, and always will be, their father, I am not longer the father I was then, for they are grown with their own children. And so it goes on - till I die.

Roles

For the masculine it is about achieving something - and then he will be satisfied/happy. For the feminine is it about being in love & happy.

The "success" that the masculine achieves has to be constantly maintained and monitored. The more he achieves, the more attention these will demand from him. And one of the main tools of the Sitra Achra, the evil impulse, is to keep us occupied in the realm of the mundane so that we have no time to spend in the realm of the divine. That is to say that most of our day is taken up with mundane activities, most of our goals are empirical, and very little, if any, of our day is devoted to our relationship with the Divine. How many of your daily thoughts are taken up in contemplating what we don't know, what is not there? Being still and listening silent speech, rather than thinking and about the things and experiences and events of your own life?

A man must learn to respond, then he must practise responding in a constrained and balanced fashion. The woman must learn to contain her responses, and choose the appropriate responses, and, interestingly, the appropriate time to respond.

The role of the woman is well-defined, as the role of the man needs to be. The better defined that each role of the masculine is, the easier it is for the woman to be secure in her place.

• Love without vulnerability is not love at all

Love, too, needs constant nourishment, though we know that material things are not what love needs - though gifts are always lovely. Admittedly, both men and women desire a materially comfortable life, that is not under question. And achieving that is a worthwhile goal. However, it is not sufficient to nourish love, though it might be sufficient to assuage the masculine, it certainly will leave the feminine in exile.

Desire for Power

The desire for power, greed, is a feminine trait. It devours whatever it can, an unbalanced form of receiving.

Transform

The female transforms the male energy into form

However, it requires the union of male & female, and, on the upper level, it requires this union to be harmonious and balanced. If the male is not contained by the female, and manifests form, it is misplace (misappropriated) energy, thus has the tendency to become destructive, as it will need to destroy this form (the female). If energy is not utilised, not only does it go to waste, but it turns toxic. anaerobic - no oxygen. Think of under-utilised electrical energy—like a fully charged battery.

Sexual Journey

The masculine sexual impulse enters the young body. It is new, it is powerful and overwhelms the vessel in which it needs to be contained. Due to the unrelieved pressure, it could crack, thus needs to be well bound to contain it.

This intense, and misunderstood urge for the young female is overwhelming, while the young woman is radiating sexuality and beauty, flush with her youthful eroticism.

If this masculine urge for the female is not contained or focused on a beloved, and continuous till his later years, the older man will find the older woman unattractive, and continue to attempt to suck of the juice of the your girl. This will tilt the sexual energy into other forms, and will need to be fulfilled by other means in order to compensate for the lack of pure, clear sexuality.

A word on the beloved

Whatever criticisms have been laid against the romantic ideal of the beloved, it came (and still comes) from our deep desire for union with the Beloved G-d, who is the Creator of All, bless Him forevermore.

Once we had G-d manifest in human form (male, of course), now we could easier allow ourselves to love another human as we would G-d, our true Beloved. Once our focus on the unknowable Divine Source, may His dew water us eternally, wavered, then this attachment could be formed to anything.

To constrain our sexual urges through love of the beloved, whether it is the human loved or the Divine, it raises us to seek a relationship with either the Divine aspect of my partner or the Divine Presence that surrounds us all. The alternative is to encourage sexual exploration, and dalliances, which will only lead to abomination and the perversion of desire.

Limits

$\lim_{n \to 0} (1/n) = \infty$

The feminine’s tendency is towards fullness. She desires to fill the space, and is thus full of connections and counterconnections, circles and the curved intentions.

$\lim_{n \to \infty} (1/n) = 0$

The masculine’s tendency is towards nothingness, annihilation, death. His analysis is reductionist, towards the atom, the smallest particle of matter, rather than towards unification, accepting the field of consciousness. He represents the force which is the expression of nothingness in this real. It has no body, no form – it is just pure energy.

Adam, the primordial man, is both male and female. Jung states that the purpose of human life, is the “union of anima and animus". His name is derived from the name of the earth, adamah, which is, in essence '$Adam + h$'. The ‘$h$’ represents the breathe of G!d, as the earth (אדמה adamah) needed the Divine Breath ($h$) in order to live..

A side note: $h$ is the symbol for hydrogen - which is the first, and most abundant element in the universe. It is also an essential component of both water and oil, the two liquids that comprise all living cells.

Sexual realm

The energy fusing with the material is the sexual realm of the upper world. The "descent" of the spirit into manifest form is the expression of the sexual in the spiritual space we are referring to.

For us, the sexual act is a possible entrance into the spiritual. For the woman, when in love, it is. For the man it seems to be more of a descent. The feminine ascends, and the masculine descends. Woman is "filled", man is "emptied". Woman encounters the infinite through the fullness, a fullness that fills the emptinesses that she wrangles with. Man encounters the divine through the emptiness - the emptiness that removes his ego, allowing him to hear the rousing silence.

Woman needs security and a firm foundation to hold her as she traverses the universal space.

Sex with

Nobody has the right to tell anyone else who they can or cannot have sex with, beyond the natural constraints of sex between adults. If my truth is, in the moment, that my desire for this person is real and soulful, and I do not express that due to guilt, I am not being authentic. I am then acting out of fear—especially fear of consequences.

What meetings are possible in the angelic realm where actions are true? Where a look, accompanied by a tremor of excitement, can set a soul alight.

Female

If you accept the fact that you are young and beautiful, and every man is going to try want you, in one way or another—you will be more able to determine and control what goes on around you. All I say is - be gracious. Only use what you have to to get what you need. Don't be cruel.

Coitus

The only truly heterosexual sexual act is vaginal penetration. All the rest are "diversions", and should be for the the pleasuring of the female.

Misc

Male $\rightarrow$ line
Female $\rightarrow$ circle
Sex $\Rightarrow$ on/off $\rightarrow$ cycle

F*ck***

Male wants the female for sex. That is a driving imperative. If he is "pure" male, then he would (if allowed) have a no nonsense approach. He would rip off her clothes and f*ck.

In order to make the experience worthwhile and for the upliftment and pleasure of both parties, to make the journey last, he needs "diversion". He has to "miss the mark", otherwise it is game over in a short time. Thus he needs to insert time into the experience, which equals creativity.

That is what love introduces into the experience, the willingness and desire to spend time to make sure that the outcome is positive for them both. The only way to truly uplift both parties and especially the feminine is through love of his partner, and ideally he would see in her the feminine Divine. For he sees feminine energy everywhere, and, in his response, will change things in her environment.

Love is when he sees her manifest in the objects around him.

What if she just wants sex too, and not complicate it with the demand of love. This should balance things out, but it does not seem to. In that case, often it is the man that is hurt, and will end up referring to her as a slut.

Woman controls man through sex, unless the man has enslaved her sexually, generally by overpowering physically or by means of societal controls. On the individual scale, it is emotional power that will stop him taking her, whereas on the communal scale it is social and legal pressures.

If she manages to control his sexual imperative, he will become sexually disconnected and unhappy, as he is not in tune with his own life force.

True love is not love that only loves you when you do what it wants. Just as true faith is not love G-d when things are good for you (like in the story of Job)

Dance with Joy